‘Abdullah b. Abu Mulaika reported: I was sitting by the side of Ibn ‘Umar, and we were waiting for the bier of Umm Aban, daughter of ‘Uthman, and there was also ‘Amr b. ‘Uthman. In the meanwhile there came Ibn ‘Abbas led by a guide. I conceive that he was informed of the place of Ibn ‘Umar. So he came till he sat by my side. While I was between them (Ibn ‘Abbas and Ibn ‘Umar) there came the noise (of wailing) from the house. Upon this Ibn ‘Umar said (that is, he pointed out to ‘Amr that he should stand and forbid them, for): I heard the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) as saying: The dead is punished because of the lamentation of his family. ‘Abdullah made it general (what was said for a particular occasion). Ibn ‘Abbas said: When we were with the Commander of the believers, ‘Umar b. Khattab, we reached Baida’, and there was a man under the shadow of the tree. He said to me: Go and inform me who is that person. So I went and (found) that he was Suhaib. I returned to him and said: You commanded me to find out for you who that was, and he is Suhaib. He (Hadrat ‘Umar) said: Command him to see us. I said: He has family along with him. He said: (That is of no account) even if he has family along with him. So he (the narrator) told him to see (the Commander of the believers and his party). When we came (to Medina), it was before long that the Commander of the believers was wounded, and Suhaib came weeping and crying: Alas for the brother, alas for the companion. Upon this ‘Umar said: Didn’t you know, or didn’t you hear, that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said:” The dead is punished because of the lamentation of his family”? Then ‘Abdullah made it general and ‘Umar told it of certain occasions. So I (‘Abdullah b. Abu Mulaika) stood up and went to ‘A’isha and told her what Ibn ‘Umar had said. Upon this she said: I swear by Allah that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) never said that dead would be punished because of his family’s lamenting (for him). What he said was that Allah would increase the punishment of the unbeliever because of his family’s lamenting for him. Verily it is Allah Who has caused laughter and weeping. No bearer of a burden will bear another’s burden. Ibn Abu Mulaika said that al-Qasim b. Muhammad said that when the words of ‘Umar and Ibn ‘Umar were conveyed to ‘A’isha, she said: You have narrated it to me from those who are neither liar nor those suspected of lying but (sometimes) hearing misleads.
Hadith In Arabic Text :
حدثنا داود بن رشيد، حدثنا إسماعيل ابن علية، حدثنا أيوب، عن عبد الله بن، أبي مليكة قال كنت جالسا إلى جنب ابن عمر ونحن ننتظر جنازة أم أبان بنت عثمان وعنده عمرو بن عثمان فجاء ابن عباس يقوده قائد فأراه أخبره بمكان ابن عمر، فجاء حتى جلس إلى جنبي فكنت بينهما فإذا صوت من الدار فقال ابن عمر – كأنه يعرض على عمرو أن يقوم فينهاهم – سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول ” إن الميت ليعذب ببكاء أهله ” . قال فأرسلها عبد الله مرسلة . فقال ابن عباس كنا مع أمير المؤمنين عمر بن الخطاب حتى إذا كنا بالبيداء إذا هو برجل نازل في شجرة فقال لي اذهب فاعلم لي من ذاك الرجل . فذهبت فإذا هو صهيب . فرجعت إليه فقلت إنك أمرتني أن أعلم لك من ذاك وإنه صهيب . قال مره فليلحق بنا . فقلت إن معه أهله . قال وإن كان معه أهله – وربما قال أيوب مره فليلحق بنا – فلما قدمنا لم يلبث أمير المؤمنين أن أصيب فجاء صهيب يقول واأخاه واصاحباه . فقال عمر ألم تعلم أو لم تسمع – قال أيوب أو قال أولم تعلم أولم تسمع – أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال ” إن الميت ليعذب ببعض بكاء أهله ” . قال فأما عبد الله فأرسلها مرسلة وأما عمر فقال ببعض . فقمت فدخلت على عائشة فحدثتها بما، قال ابن عمر فقالت لا والله ما قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قط ” إن الميت يعذب ببكاء أحد ” . ولكنه قال ” إن الكافر يزيده الله ببكاء أهله عذابا وإن الله لهو أضحك وأبكى ولا تزر وازرة وزر أخرى ” . قال أيوب قال ابن أبي مليكة حدثني القاسم بن محمد قال لما بلغ عائشة قول عمر وابن عمر قالت إنكم لتحدثوني عن غير كاذبين ولا مكذبين ولكن السمع يخطئ .
Chapter : The Book of Prayer (Funerals) – كتاب الجنائز